Getting a job while expecting, OH MY!

Previously I wrote about making sure you don’t settle for less while job hunting. Today I’d like to cover a very delicate topic: How to get a good job while expecting.

Life is unpredictable and babies come at the darndest time. Such is the case with my own situation. I was in the process of interviews and looking for the perfect work environment when all of the sudden I felt nauseous one day. Long behold I took a test and it mights as well read NOW YOU REALLY NEED A GOOD JOB YOU'RE GOING TO BE A MOMMY ++!

So what do you do, right? Do you tell your potential employers your pregnant to avoid a future awkward conversation and any animosity that might occur from the situation? Do you keep it secret, after all it’s only your first trimester and the risk of miscarriages are high.  You're thoughts are racing a million miles per hour but I’ve found that the best solution is always the truth.

During this time when you’ll acquire many new responsibilities and a new life perspective -a stressful work environment is the last thing you should be worrying about. Although there is no wrong or right answer to what someone in my position should do, here’s how I went about it:

I hired a recruiter, and told him the truth. I stressed that especially under my condition I wanted to make sure I was placed in a company that was supportive of working mothers and flex time. I wanted a company who valued their employees and didn’t just hire worker bees.  In addition because recruiters want to keep a positive relationship with the firms and companies they work for, in a way they are obligated to tell the HR person the truth, thus eliminating that worry from your job hunting process.

I know legally a company cannot discriminate a women for expecting, however in certain work environments being an expectant mother can be a liability to the company, thus why staffing agents shy away from offering you a position even though you are 100% capable of doing the job. So if a company knowing the situation still decides to interview you, chances are they are place worth your time.

Now. What if you aren’t going the recruiter route?

I still advise you get a good sense of the company's policies and work environment. Are people genuinely happy to be there? What is their office culture like? Did they allow you to walk around the office and ask questions? Do they offer flex time? Obviously if you’ve found a dream job with an amazing office culture, I’d say go for it. Prove yourself in the first 3 months and by the time your bump comes out to play they will be happy for you and understanding.

Now more than ever you have to make smart choices for you and your future bundle of joy! Good Luck expecting moms, and may you land that dream job.

WORK RANT-Being a weak women sucks sometimes.

I'm so behind on blog post lately, however I have a huge work rant for you all.

I went to pick up my prints and notice the printer was out of paper. However this isn't your ordinary rolls of paper, they're 30" W heavy rolls that produce what we call architecture prints. Each roll probably weighs 30-50 pounds (totally guessing). Normally this is not a problem, but seeing as I'm a preggers over hear, carrying these rolls are a big no no. So what did I do? I simply asked the tech guy to help me feed the hungry printer. He wasn't to happy about it. He replied with a snark response saying: "I will show you how's it's done so when I'm not here". I assume he thinks I didn't know how it was done verses ignoring the fact I'm pregnant not just fat. In conclusion he wasn't to happy that I bothered him.

About less then 10 minutes later we all get bombarded by an all staff message saying: please don't bother XXX with non essentials task as he will be busy for the next 12 weeks with the office move etc etc etc. I knew right away that comment was directed at me.

Moral of the story is that I'm constantly proclaiming that women in the workplace especially in a career such as architecture have less barriers than ever, that was until of course I became pregnant. Now more than ever I see how hard it can be. Not to mention today I had to yell at a man on the Bus to offer his seat for another expecting mother.

I guess we still have barriers to overcome. Somehow I have to figure out a creative way to carry heavy stuff while expecting so I don't have to bother the male workforce and appear weak. ERRRRR Work problems!